It’s better to stick to unity. If one parent forbids something for a child, then the second one should support this decision. It’s necessary to act together and agree on the prohibitions and permissions they impose on their children.
It’s also important to equally share the responsibility for the daily care of children. A child isn’t able to join the swim team, choose vitamins, and make an appointment with a doctor on their own, but dad and mom can. And here is where a husband can help and ease the load off of his wife. Then the mothers themselves can stop focusing on the mistakes their children make, stop trying to control everything, and sometimes take part in their children’s games with their husband.
Household chores that a woman does become overwhelming.